When my daughter was just out of infancy, she threw her first tantrum. She was being fed a particular kind of baby food and she just spit it out. With each attempt, her reaction got stronger, she would move her head left and right and violently kick her feet with a shrill cry of protest.She was not obviously liking the food and that was her way of conveying the feeling. Welcome to tantrums!
Tantrums are one of nature’s most effective ways of conveying displeasure, mostly. Though tantrums are largely associated with kids and teenagers, adults too display them in a more manipulative way.
Infants and young kids are simple and pure at heart. The seed of ego is yet to sprout and the ‘ways of the world’ are not yet ‘cultivated’. Hence the reason for the tantrum could be as simple as a toy, a food item or a desire to be taken out somewhere. These tantrums though not difficult, could be tricky to handle.
When it comes to teenagers, the world has just started to open up. The ego has started to manifest itself and last but not the least, peer pressure is starting to build up. Accordingly, based on the reason and situation, the display of tantrums could range from shouting, arguing, throwing things or simply shutting themselves up in a room. Handling a teenager’s tantrum is lot more tricky and difficult.
Tantrums in adults can have an entirely different dimension or meaning. Adults would use tantrum more as weapon or a tool to get certain things done. Or to convey certain message which cannot be done in a conventional way. Or to divert attention from some other thing that they do not want highlighted. Or to plainly get something done while conveying something else!
Bottom line, tantrums can get as simple or as complicated as the user wants them to be. They can also bring out the ‘innovativeness’ in whoever is throwing them. It goes without saying that tantrums are the most effective ways of expression in the repertoire of human skills. Just that God wanted us to spice up our communications.